Because it’s the only thing that keeps reality at bay. This isn’t anything new, women are getting hit hard with the same need for validation as the multiple tattoos, septum piercing and body count that puts Chris Kyle to shame are now pushing the wall and freaking out about being old and alone. This is where the chronic need for validation comes in, they have to “ride the high”, have to normalize their depression from a life wasted as a positive, and they can only do so from continued affirmation from others they did the right thing.