Obviously we don't want to get into legal territory here, but I'm sure most men have been through this, on at least some "informal" level, at least previously...
The entire saga has taken place via text. I didn't say anything explicit, and was never given any indication that this individual was "uncomfortable". Literally no words were exchanged to that effect. In fact, most discussion was about our mutual studies. I had a slight feeling something was "off", from this girl's behaviour more broadly, but again, no direct indication was given...
Anyway, it has been some time since we had actually spoken, but today I am told that she has reported me to the University. Just informally, but the head of the student counselling department wants to pursue an investigation into me, lololol...
I have a record of the entire exchange. I haven't broken any laws, here, so unless there's some informal rule about "Her word against yours" (which I'm sure there probably is), I think I'm largely ok. Reputational damage is likely the main issue...
Anyway, like I said, in the court of "He said, she said", obviously they will side with her, but if this is a case based purely on "feelings", then who fucking knows how far she will get...
Just a fucking waste of my time. I've got so much other shit going on (my grandmother literally died two days ago, so to say this is low on my priority list..? Is an understatement), that I really just want to minimise impact, and get the fucking thing over with...
Eugh.
Yes, it's my own stupid fault for letting this one in. Yes, it's very High School. But like I said, I can calmly say that I did not actually do anything objectively wrong, here.
It is what it is, and I'm stuck with it. Like most college-age straight males who've had even the barest bit of experience, lol.
Major red flag. Record everything. Depending on your state, you may need to tell them you are recording.
You do not have to, and should not talk to them, if they refuse to be recorded.
Yeah, I’ve tried to get everything in writing, but obviously they are trying to avoid that…
I’ve sent them a detailed response with questions, before I am willing to do a phone call. Will have to see how that proceeds…
Honestly, they’ll probably just ignore it though, lol. It’s quite clear already that they don’t care about privacy or due process, so… Yeah.
Then avoid their requests. This isn't complicated.