our culture has trained women

Trained women and men. Although TheImp blames "schools" I was just thinking about this the other day how our TV, movies, and other media has been normalizing this perspective for generations. Beyond the pro-feminine bias, there's at least two linked premises specific to affairs we've been programmed with:

1 - Men have affairs because they want to boink around. Women have affairs because of "emotional" needs, usually as a failure of their spouse to meet those needs.

2 - Doing something for emotional reasons - for "feelings" - is always good. What you feel deep down is always right. Listen to your heart. Cheating because you want to fuck other people is wrong. Cheating because you're not happy with the relationship is understandable. (for some reason carnal desires like lust don't count as feelings here - until the woman rationalizes it as "romance")

The programming is so deep that I once saw a TV show about a woman who found out her husband was cheating on her, and when the MAN said "I'm sorry - I just don't love you anymore." even I laughed at the faggot because I could not believe that's how a man in an affair would behave. Although men and women both cheat for various reasons, I think the women often excuse their own behavior with the above points. Men don't tend to excuse their own behavior that way.