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Well since we've descended into personal diatribes, I sincerely hope your own sons, if you have any, don't end up much worse off than simply alone because you chose, once again, to lecture them about their responsibilities and shame them into stepping on a land mine without ever bothering to try and understand that the relationship model which worked for you is no longer applicable.
As for all the other young men whom you hope to convince of their "civilizational imperative," the callousness, arrogance and self-indulgence of your arguments will serve only to further alienate them and drive them even further into isolation and apathy. Young men are increasingly sick of being lectured, shamed and bullied, both by women and by men like you who refuse to listen.
Bullying, to the extent that it has a societal function, only works on those, like women, who have spent their lives being coddled and indulged. It is much less effective against those who have already spent their entire lives being bullied. You're not going to solve this problem with the stick.
What worked for me? Were women substantially different in 2019 or something? I'm on the absolute youngest year of Gen X. I'm talking about modern women in this day and age and the dating scene as it is today.
Oh and this might surprise you, but almost every single millennial is cuddled and spoiled.
And as for "listen", I don't think you understand the situation here. I'm not the one who is dissatisfied here. You say you want something that works but you won't stop the pity party long enough to actually hear a solution.
Same thing women do. They don't want a solution they want to sulk. Im here to tell you it doesn't work. You can sulk or you can improve but you can't do both.
You seem to be imputing a lot on to me without knowing anything about my situation.
Millennial and zoomer women certainly have spent their lives being coddled and spoiled. Young men, not so much.
Despite what you seem to believe, I'm not in a situation where I'm looking for a relationship with a woman, nor am I attempting to throw a "pity party" for myself. However, unlike you, I do possess enough societal awareness to understand that the solution you are offering is entirely unrealistic.
You are certainly right about encouraging young men to take steps to improve themselves. But if you think that mitigates the minefield that is the modern dating environment, you are wrong. Self-improvement for its own sake is a positive goal, but it doesn't change the fact that in any modern social interaction between a woman and a man, the woman has all the power, and all of the institutional backing. That situation is too risky for any man, regardless of how confident or competent he is.
The fact is that young men, deprived of father figures or any other positive masculine role models and having spent their lives being shamed, bullied and cajoled, perpetually reminded of their shortcomings and failures, endlessly harangued by men and women both about their responsibility to clean up a societal mess that they didn't make, are increasingly disengaged and apathetic. Your proposed solution is to continue trying to motivate them in the same ways that have led to that outcome. You're beating a dead horse.
I don't think it mitigates a damn thing. I said it's necessary anyway. Not to mention fulfilling.
As for the apathetic, feel free. Give up if you want. Stick fingers in your ears and pout that life isn't as easy as it was for boomers. It won't help. If you want things to get better, action and change is required.
Anyone who wants help is welcome. But I don't think a lot of you guys do actually want help. I think most of you like just pouting because that's safe and easy.
Once again, I'm not in that situation myself. I just empathize with young men who are, which you clearly don't.
You can bitch all you want about the men who've given up being the ones who've taken the safe and easy path, but I think that's you. From atop your towering sense of paternalistic superiority you wag an admonishing, or shall I say nagging, finger at the men who've escaped into porn and video games, not as a preference, but as a last resort. And all the while you refuse to acknowledge the role your own generation of men, and the ones who came before you, played in creating the problem that you now insist it's up to the next generation to deal with.