You aren't wrong. That is part of the dark half of their nature.

Women are terrified of being in the out-group. They want the in-group's authority to protect them. That failing, they want to be on the in with the new authority, by any means necessary.

I don't fault them, really. Often the only way to survive an invasion was on your back and by being a bootlicker.

The job of men in society, conversely is to be the 'boots on the ground,' and strong enough to keep their women (safe? satisfied? 'on the plantation?')-- any way you cut it, this is a task most modern western men fail at.