Like you say, both positions are very 'problematic'. If you say it's OK to do it if you simply didn't know, what's to stop people from knowingly doing it and then saying that they didn't know?
Then again, I feel icky about a man in his fifties fucking a teen, even if barely legal. Like there wouldn't be a question if he wasn't looking for guys a third of his age...
Who on earth asks for an ID on a date?
Like you say, both positions are very 'problematic'. If you say it's OK to do it if you simply didn't know, what's to stop people from knowingly doing it and then saying that they didn't know?
Right, it'd be weird to ask, but perfectly normal to force a situation where someone else does.
Then again, I feel icky about a man in his fifties fucking a teen, even if barely legal. Like there wouldn't be a question if he wasn't looking for guys a third of his age...