That would be my answer too. It's appalling how many boys grow up without a father or a grandfather, uncle, etc. that they even see or pays any attention to them. I don't know what I'd be today without those influences in my life, but I'm pretty sure it would not be good.
I grew up without a dad and it's a damn miracle I even got to college, let alone graduated it. Took a fucking epiphany to get myself in gear because I'd be going nowhere fast otherwise.
Went to a poorer school growing up so mine wasn't the only situation. One guy I knew is almost 30 and last I checked (which granted was over 6 or 7 years ago) became a soyboy working a dead-end job at some comic shop creeping on girls. Another was a year behind me and is still bussing tables at the bar his mom works at. Another got taken out of his mom's custody (pill popping cluster-B crazy) and put with his grandmother. He's, doing ooookay. Makes decent money working with Amazon atm but there was a lot of aimlessness in the years between.
Kind of amazed I didn't get into hard drugs and wind up dead, now that I think about it. I have a half-sister and she wasn't so lucky, she got into alcohol and crippled herself for life drunk-driving. That was about 20 years ago now so she's doing pretty great! I think we're both outliers in the single-mom situation though.
The broken-home issue is a big killer and it's the one common factor between so many problems that's just completely ignored.
It's really sad overall. Just my personal sample size every single guy I've kept up with or heard about that I knew growing up that turned into a drug addict, deadbeat, whatever you want to call it every single one of them grew up in a broken house. I think it's part of the reason I make a point of spending time with my nephews/cousin who's like a nephew is even though they have good dads I want them to have a guy around if things ever turn to shit in that respect.
It's so important. Especially as it has knock-on effects that could potentially span generations. That "drug addict" or "deadbeat" has a much greater chance of divorce if they do get married so they can very well just repeat the cycle. Heck, I'm doing relatively ok and I know I'll have a much greater chance of that, and if I have kids then it'll be the same for them if that happens.
Just watch the rates of crime, mental illness, etc. really start to kick up for whites in the next few decades as more and more of them grow up in broken homes. It's already starting to happen. We've been seeing it with blacks for the last 40 years and I think it's only a matter of time before the issues they're dealing with became something all the different groups deal with en masse when the family-unit really starts to die out.
Is this talked about? No, of course not. Just even acknowledging the problem would require a hard look at all of the "progress" made since the 1960s.
That would be my answer too. It's appalling how many boys grow up without a father or a grandfather, uncle, etc. that they even see or pays any attention to them. I don't know what I'd be today without those influences in my life, but I'm pretty sure it would not be good.
I grew up without a dad and it's a damn miracle I even got to college, let alone graduated it. Took a fucking epiphany to get myself in gear because I'd be going nowhere fast otherwise.
Went to a poorer school growing up so mine wasn't the only situation. One guy I knew is almost 30 and last I checked (which granted was over 6 or 7 years ago) became a soyboy working a dead-end job at some comic shop creeping on girls. Another was a year behind me and is still bussing tables at the bar his mom works at. Another got taken out of his mom's custody (pill popping cluster-B crazy) and put with his grandmother. He's, doing ooookay. Makes decent money working with Amazon atm but there was a lot of aimlessness in the years between.
Kind of amazed I didn't get into hard drugs and wind up dead, now that I think about it. I have a half-sister and she wasn't so lucky, she got into alcohol and crippled herself for life drunk-driving. That was about 20 years ago now so she's doing pretty great! I think we're both outliers in the single-mom situation though.
The broken-home issue is a big killer and it's the one common factor between so many problems that's just completely ignored.
It's really sad overall. Just my personal sample size every single guy I've kept up with or heard about that I knew growing up that turned into a drug addict, deadbeat, whatever you want to call it every single one of them grew up in a broken house. I think it's part of the reason I make a point of spending time with my nephews/cousin who's like a nephew is even though they have good dads I want them to have a guy around if things ever turn to shit in that respect.
It's so important. Especially as it has knock-on effects that could potentially span generations. That "drug addict" or "deadbeat" has a much greater chance of divorce if they do get married so they can very well just repeat the cycle. Heck, I'm doing relatively ok and I know I'll have a much greater chance of that, and if I have kids then it'll be the same for them if that happens.
Just watch the rates of crime, mental illness, etc. really start to kick up for whites in the next few decades as more and more of them grow up in broken homes. It's already starting to happen. We've been seeing it with blacks for the last 40 years and I think it's only a matter of time before the issues they're dealing with became something all the different groups deal with en masse when the family-unit really starts to die out.
Is this talked about? No, of course not. Just even acknowledging the problem would require a hard look at all of the "progress" made since the 1960s.