Is the easiest time in history to have kids and yet we are having less kids then ever.
Do not get me wrong, is ok to have kids only if you want them and not do to social pressure. But we are in a time where the social pressure is to not have kids, this is wrong as well.
You end up with a lot of depressed 30+ women and men that never grow up.
I do not want to influence anyone, however getting married and having kids changed me a lot.
I had 0 ambition, used to play computer games all day, I would postpone everything to the last moment, I was growing more and more depressed.
I got married and it changed my life. I started being more ambitious, my work ethic improved, I started having hobbies where I build things, my responsibilities have grown and I am a lot happier with how I am. I even gotten in shape. The reason for my change is not natural, it was hard for me to change but I did it so I can be a better husband and a father that the kids can be proud of.
I fully know that tomorrow or the day after my wife may go thru some crisis and take my kids and my house away from me. I have no illusion that this entire part of my life may crush and burn and leave me an empty husk of a human being.
I also know that my wife would probably leave me if I got fired and if she was to make more then me our relationship would not be a pleasant one.
But until that happens I plan to enjoy my life and I do feel like I was an overgrown child until I got married. I do not even know why my current wife even took a chance with me.
It's very true. There is a telos to existence that we are in denial of, people drifting through life wallowing in sadness, consumerism, hedonism, chemical dependency, looking to 'find themselves' or 'figure out how to adult,' etc. etc. etc.
We've forgotten this basic lessons our grandparents took for granted: humans weren't meant to live this way. Get married and have kids, it really is that simple, let the next stage of your life begin. Once you stop fighting the current you find your brain has all sorts of new pathways to grow and mature, all these tools left to rot become useful and important, and you don't have an eternal hunger that is never filled.
So much of modernity involves fighting nature tooth and nail, with only misery as the result.
Dude nothing happened, I'm happily married but I do nkow that life gets fucked up and women do tend to be chaotic and I've seen this scenarios to many times to believe that me and my wife are somehow special and love conquers all.
Maybe we will be happily married and grow old together, I do hope so.
But you are definitely more mature because you schizo post and brag about the money you have while you hate on women for fucking everything here all fucking day.
Considering you've tanked your own reputation to the point that no one will be convinced to your side, if you are capable of multitasking you are still wasting it by doing so.
Getting off on petty arguments is in fact a sign of immaturity because its what women love to do.
It's the internal change that fatherhood forces. Caring for your children moves you further along the path from 'boy' to 'man.' Having to father a child invokes manhood as steward and warden. You care about the world more, because your children inherit it. Your focus ceases to be entirely self-centered because you are invested in your children's success: father to son, in a chain that lasts past your own life.
Fatherhood is literal Patriarchy, and is one of the things Feminists want to destroy. The fact that you're speaking against it is deeply ironic.
Is the easiest time in history to have kids and yet we are having less kids then ever.
Do not get me wrong, is ok to have kids only if you want them and not do to social pressure. But we are in a time where the social pressure is to not have kids, this is wrong as well.
You're not more mature because you sold your soul to a woman so she would shit out kids for you for a couple of years before taking her cut.
I do not want to influence anyone, however getting married and having kids changed me a lot. I had 0 ambition, used to play computer games all day, I would postpone everything to the last moment, I was growing more and more depressed.
I got married and it changed my life. I started being more ambitious, my work ethic improved, I started having hobbies where I build things, my responsibilities have grown and I am a lot happier with how I am. I even gotten in shape. The reason for my change is not natural, it was hard for me to change but I did it so I can be a better husband and a father that the kids can be proud of.
I fully know that tomorrow or the day after my wife may go thru some crisis and take my kids and my house away from me. I have no illusion that this entire part of my life may crush and burn and leave me an empty husk of a human being.
I also know that my wife would probably leave me if I got fired and if she was to make more then me our relationship would not be a pleasant one.
But until that happens I plan to enjoy my life and I do feel like I was an overgrown child until I got married. I do not even know why my current wife even took a chance with me.
It's very true. There is a telos to existence that we are in denial of, people drifting through life wallowing in sadness, consumerism, hedonism, chemical dependency, looking to 'find themselves' or 'figure out how to adult,' etc. etc. etc.
We've forgotten this basic lessons our grandparents took for granted: humans weren't meant to live this way. Get married and have kids, it really is that simple, let the next stage of your life begin. Once you stop fighting the current you find your brain has all sorts of new pathways to grow and mature, all these tools left to rot become useful and important, and you don't have an eternal hunger that is never filled.
So much of modernity involves fighting nature tooth and nail, with only misery as the result.
I'd need to stop doing that first. lol
Dude nothing happened, I'm happily married but I do nkow that life gets fucked up and women do tend to be chaotic and I've seen this scenarios to many times to believe that me and my wife are somehow special and love conquers all.
Maybe we will be happily married and grow old together, I do hope so.
But you are definitely more mature because you schizo post and brag about the money you have while you hate on women for fucking everything here all fucking day.
Have you not heard of multitasking?
It's really not hard to reply to worthless comments like yours while doing other things.
Considering you've tanked your own reputation to the point that no one will be convinced to your side, if you are capable of multitasking you are still wasting it by doing so.
Getting off on petty arguments is in fact a sign of immaturity because its what women love to do.
I literally just found this site and 2 out of the 3 threads I've read have you blaming women for odd things and people calling you out on it lol.
It's not about the woman.
It's the internal change that fatherhood forces. Caring for your children moves you further along the path from 'boy' to 'man.' Having to father a child invokes manhood as steward and warden. You care about the world more, because your children inherit it. Your focus ceases to be entirely self-centered because you are invested in your children's success: father to son, in a chain that lasts past your own life.
Fatherhood is literal Patriarchy, and is one of the things Feminists want to destroy. The fact that you're speaking against it is deeply ironic.