I do not want to influence anyone, however getting married and having kids changed me a lot.
I had 0 ambition, used to play computer games all day, I would postpone everything to the last moment, I was growing more and more depressed.
I got married and it changed my life. I started being more ambitious, my work ethic improved, I started having hobbies where I build things, my responsibilities have grown and I am a lot happier with how I am. I even gotten in shape. The reason for my change is not natural, it was hard for me to change but I did it so I can be a better husband and a father that the kids can be proud of.
I fully know that tomorrow or the day after my wife may go thru some crisis and take my kids and my house away from me. I have no illusion that this entire part of my life may crush and burn and leave me an empty husk of a human being.
I also know that my wife would probably leave me if I got fired and if she was to make more then me our relationship would not be a pleasant one.
But until that happens I plan to enjoy my life and I do feel like I was an overgrown child until I got married. I do not even know why my current wife even took a chance with me.
It's very true. There is a telos to existence that we are in denial of, people drifting through life wallowing in sadness, consumerism, hedonism, chemical dependency, looking to 'find themselves' or 'figure out how to adult,' etc. etc. etc.
We've forgotten this basic lessons our grandparents took for granted: humans weren't meant to live this way. Get married and have kids, it really is that simple, let the next stage of your life begin. Once you stop fighting the current you find your brain has all sorts of new pathways to grow and mature, all these tools left to rot become useful and important, and you don't have an eternal hunger that is never filled.
So much of modernity involves fighting nature tooth and nail, with only misery as the result.
Dude nothing happened, I'm happily married but I do nkow that life gets fucked up and women do tend to be chaotic and I've seen this scenarios to many times to believe that me and my wife are somehow special and love conquers all.
Maybe we will be happily married and grow old together, I do hope so.
I do not want to influence anyone, however getting married and having kids changed me a lot. I had 0 ambition, used to play computer games all day, I would postpone everything to the last moment, I was growing more and more depressed.
I got married and it changed my life. I started being more ambitious, my work ethic improved, I started having hobbies where I build things, my responsibilities have grown and I am a lot happier with how I am. I even gotten in shape. The reason for my change is not natural, it was hard for me to change but I did it so I can be a better husband and a father that the kids can be proud of.
I fully know that tomorrow or the day after my wife may go thru some crisis and take my kids and my house away from me. I have no illusion that this entire part of my life may crush and burn and leave me an empty husk of a human being.
I also know that my wife would probably leave me if I got fired and if she was to make more then me our relationship would not be a pleasant one.
But until that happens I plan to enjoy my life and I do feel like I was an overgrown child until I got married. I do not even know why my current wife even took a chance with me.
It's very true. There is a telos to existence that we are in denial of, people drifting through life wallowing in sadness, consumerism, hedonism, chemical dependency, looking to 'find themselves' or 'figure out how to adult,' etc. etc. etc.
We've forgotten this basic lessons our grandparents took for granted: humans weren't meant to live this way. Get married and have kids, it really is that simple, let the next stage of your life begin. Once you stop fighting the current you find your brain has all sorts of new pathways to grow and mature, all these tools left to rot become useful and important, and you don't have an eternal hunger that is never filled.
So much of modernity involves fighting nature tooth and nail, with only misery as the result.
I'd need to stop doing that first. lol
Dude nothing happened, I'm happily married but I do nkow that life gets fucked up and women do tend to be chaotic and I've seen this scenarios to many times to believe that me and my wife are somehow special and love conquers all.
Maybe we will be happily married and grow old together, I do hope so.