Exactly. Every society has it's weakest points, and women can be a large one. This is why treating women exactly like men and expecting them to act contrary to their nature leads to many problems. If they under-perform you're not simply allowed to say that without facing backlash.

Much worse is the force that drives that wedge deeper into society in order to break up power and take it for itself, knowing full well the amount of suffering and destruction it can cause.

Women cannot be that ultimate cause, especially in a monogamous society. For humanity to exist it needs men and women, and either one needs to be suppressed or they work in tandem. If deep down men or women in general wanted the other utterly destroyed, it would have already happened by now and there would be no humans.