I typically don't and wouldn't attack someone personally for having a different opinion. I'm more than comfortable enough in my beliefs and who I am as a person. I've dealt with my share of women and relationships and have had experiences with them across the spectrum. I've dated girls heavily into kinky shit and threesomes, and I've dated girls who were boringly vanilla. My takeaway from it was that there's absolutely no glass slipper that fits women perfectly; however, I'd say that applies to all people overall. We're all individuals and shouldn't be bound by stereotypes and tribalism. Unlike many people though, I don't believe our individuality makes us "special," but instead, is simply a truth and inherent to everyone.
We deal with many things throughout our lives that are similar to "spinning the chamber," but to me, in many of those instances, I think it's still worth playing. I know the people you're talking about who almost fetishize certain groups and think they're perfect, but I think anyone with an expectation of perfection isn't only delusional and maybe even mentally deficient. Simple common sense would should elucidate the fact that perfection is a fallacy; if you're expecting it you're only setting yourself up for disappointment.
 
I figured you probably weren't trying to attack religion as a whole, which is why I mentioned how it could be misinterpreted that way. I can't really fault people for getting a bit defensive about it either when you consider the shit many Christians have had to deal with the last few years. But it's all cleared up now, so hopefully people read to understand that.
I, too, don't think the judicial system will change. At least, not any time soon. A cursory glance of how the system is being politicized and judges are making rulings based on party lines and their feelings clearly demonstrates a lot of the problems that are concomitant to it presently. I'm not sure if it can be forced either, though. I personally believe the best way to initiate change at a judicial level is to publicly highlight the failures of justice that are occurring around the country. The more exposure their failures receive the more people will begin to demand for accountability and action.
The main issue I see at the moment is finding a platform to highlight these issues. Even avoiding marriage isn't a solution when many states have common law marriage simply by living with each other for extended periods. And I don't think the solution to this is to avoid relationships altogether.