Okay? If they have meetings or fundraisers or whatever, I've never been invited. I don't know enough about it know whether it resembles me or not, or if you think you're being insulting here.

This is basic observation about human behavior, ethics, morals, backed by myriad cases, instances, and ten thousand stories across every media. On your end, is only, and I mean solely, some kind of fucked-up belief that our fates are absolutely coded before our births, which doesn't gibe with Christianity, Western values, science (the real one, not "The Science"), biology, genetics, or...anything, really. Hell, it goes against everything known about nutrition and how it affects growth and hormone activity, both of which can't be disentangled from what makes a person, and what makes them act this way or that.