excellent breakdown, that bit about empathy is particularly important.

So many people think empathy means caring about and respecting other people. That's not empathy, that's altruism. And if you only care about the people that think like you, much like the modern liberal, that's narcissistic altruism.

to have empathy is to have the ability to put yourself in someone else's shoes and and make a good faith attempt to think like them. Not your idealized version of them, a genuine attempt to reconstruct their wants, needs, and motivations.