It's basic hypergamy, women want to date up so it serves to reason (in women logic) that any man who is nice to them doesn't have other options, and is therefore beneath them. So while they don't actually enjoy being treated like crap, the aloof guy gets their attention by his lack of attachment to the outcome. If he doesn't care how she feels, it has to be because he has options and that automatically makes him higher value.
Once you understand this you can be the 'cocky jerk' without treating women 'bad' and get everything you want out of relationships. But for some men the conditioning is so bad the realization that the world doesn't work how they've been taught is overwhelming.
Well said. Most men have been taught to submit to women in order to get rewarded. This is female thinking. Female get rewarded for submitting to the opposite sex.
Being nice is also a turn off. Acts of service and submission in order to gain favor. No wonder women don't want men like that.
It's basic hypergamy, women want to date up so it serves to reason (in women logic) that any man who is nice to them doesn't have other options, and is therefore beneath them. So while they don't actually enjoy being treated like crap, the aloof guy gets their attention by his lack of attachment to the outcome. If he doesn't care how she feels, it has to be because he has options and that automatically makes him higher value.
Once you understand this you can be the 'cocky jerk' without treating women 'bad' and get everything you want out of relationships. But for some men the conditioning is so bad the realization that the world doesn't work how they've been taught is overwhelming.
Well said. Most men have been taught to submit to women in order to get rewarded. This is female thinking. Female get rewarded for submitting to the opposite sex.