If you've been around anime a while, you have probably heard of Redo of Healer. It's a rather middling fantasy world revenge story that made a big splash for two major reasons. First, it's borderline hentai in the amount of nudity and actual sex depicted. And secondly, and the reason it's gotten a near universally loathed and nefarious reputation among the reddit-weeb types is that the Main Character enacts revenge on another character in the first episode by viciously raping her. It's revenge for the fact that she imprisoned him for a year and had him raped every day, but what makes it a 'bad' anime is that it shows the MC that we're ostensibly supposed to follow and root for throughout the rest of the show, doing it back to her. Rape=bad of course, so he's seen as permanently irredeemable and it made a lot of people hate the show based on just that. Also, the MC then takes the evil girl he got revenge on via rape, erases all of her memories and personality with magic, and basically imparts a brand new person with a new name and everything into her body, who ends up being a rather likeable and fun typical-waifu character.
Well there's another anime that is just starting to air right now called Haite Kudasai, Takamine-san. It's notable for two reasons. First, it has a near hentai level of nudity in it (no sex, yet). But secondly, in the first episode the female MC falsely accuses the male MC of rape in school, to the point where a bunch of male simp students come in and start beating the shit out of him, the police are called, he's handcuffed and in the process of being dragged away to be prosecuted for a rape he didn't commit. She has a magical power that lets her reverse time to undo things, so she makes him beg her to turn back time and undo the false accusation in exchange for promising to be her slave. We are lead to believe that later on, somehow they're going to fall in love and become an item.
In both instances we have a main character who commits an unspeakable evil act against another character, but then magics away the consequences of that act, and the two people are expected to move on like it never happened and the audience is expected to buy into a blossoming romance between them. The differences between the two actually land in favor of Redo of Healer in that A: the MC has a good reason to do what he did. You might not agree with what he did for revenge, but being imprisoned in a dungeon for a year, addicted to drugs on purpose, and having everyone from guards to animals brought in to regularly beat and sodomize him day after day is at least an understandable motivation to do something similar back to the person who did it. And B: he erases her memories. She has no idea that she was the one who did that to him, or that he raped her as revenge. He knows, but she doesn't. So her falling in love with him is at least buyable.
In Takamine-san, what's the female MCs motivation for falsely accusing the guy of rape so that he'll pledge to be her slave? She uses her time-rewind ability to be perfect at high school. She get's a 98% on a test so she resets time to get 100%. He finds out she's doing this, so she gets him arrested for false-rape in order for him to pledge not to tell on her that she's been cheating at life for years to appear perfect. She does end up rewinding time so that the accusation never happened, but they both keep their memories of it. He still knows all along for the rest of the show this is something she was willing to do to him so she could cheat at high school.
And it's Takamine-san that's given the free pass. I've seen hundreds of comments all saying "it's just a romcom man, the rape thing ends up not being an issue later." and "it's just a niche show about a femdom fetish, it's cool if it's not your thing but that doesn't make it bad". Reddit-weebs falling over themselves to make excuses for Takamine-san and downplay what she does to the guy, all because it's a woman and she shows her tits.
Redo of Healer has far more female purchasers of product than male. The audience base is quite skewed.
A fun fact of the universe was that both Redo and Dress up Darling were getting big around the same time. One was a girly girl show written by a femcel about her self-insert getting a cosplay BF martysue, yet it was primarily consumed by men.
While the "incel revenge fantasy" Redo ended up as the opposite and was everything women wanted.
The vast majority of cutesty but semi-serious romance anime are consumed by men. Dress Up Darling, Horimiya, Angle Next Door, Pseudo Harem, Alya Hides Her Feelings, Makeine, etc. Those shows reveal the real fantasy many men have. Women think that it's being a monster who rapes and dominates, but that is actually their fantasy of a man. When a lot of men really dream about is the kind of girl we see so often in those 'girl' romcoms. Someone who is honest, loyal, caring, genuinely kind and likeable, etc. A normal guy who is truly loved, wanted, appreciated, and respected by an attractive girl who is actually a good person deep down. I think it's because anime is now the only place where men can actually find women like that. They don't really exist in the real world anymore, and it's still the idea men have. It's akin to masturbating for the heart. You know it's not real, it doesn't produce the same level of feeling the real thing would, but it simulates it well enough if your head that it gives you at least an enjoyable approximation of the real thing, at least for a brief time.
I feel personally attacked that I've seen all of these, sans Angel Next Door.
Though I have extreme opinions that most of these start great and then fall into the classic trap of "we need conflict! quick make up some bullshit misunderstanding!!!!"
Which, if we use the "masturbation for the heart" example, is like putting an entire sad drama storyline in the middle of a porn shoot.