This comic seems to have triggered quite a few feminists
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TBH, BDSM in itself is sick shit.
People always say "oh, that stuff is wrong, it wasn§'t proper BDSM" about everything, but really, how can it be healthy in the first place? Everyone keeps saying there are these wonderful BDSM relationships, just not THIS one (it's never that one).
Same with that retarded "poly" shit. Sure, all of the relationships fail, but there are those totally really wonderfully working ones... whoops, turns out those were shitty as well.
I think mild BDSM is generally fine, it's the ones that try to pretend it's a lifestyle that are delusional. Tying up your boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife and a bit of roughness is fine, but if you're getting into specialised equipment, serious bruising/injury and/or a lack of normalcy outside of the bedroom, there's definitely something wrong.
But poly shit is absolutely fucked up. At least the precursor to that, swingers, were honest about the sleaziness of it all, but even that too is messed up.
My fear with all that would be that it turns into that. It probably starts pretty tame but then increases to keep it novel until you get to shit like swinging and cucking.
Nah, that's not really how it works. Most of that shit comes from porn addiction more than anything else. Actual intimacy simply works differently, and mild BDSM is mostly just "vanilla" (aka normal sex) with small twists and nothing more.
Let me put it like this: Would you say spanking your better half could lead to swinging, or is that a bit of a reach? What about holding their hands above their head so you're in control, does that lead to cucking? No, it's also a reach. This is the kinds of things I'm talking about.
This is about as silly as saying that anything other than missionary leads to adultery or some shit. Slippery slopes are a real thing, but I don't think this is one of them. And if someone were to honestly believe that a bit of rough sex is going to lead to wanting to have sex with other people, I would suggest that thought was already there before the rough sex started, not caused because of it.
Missionary?! Sex?! Inevitably leads to perversion. Chaste abstinence is the only thing that doesn't lead to BDSM scat-adultery!
Yeah, but why would you do the things mentioned in your 2nd paragraph?
And yes, they will lead to much more degenerate things but, of course, not for everybody.