https://rumble.com/v4ng5sr-njf-on-marriage.html
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summary:
- you can't take risks
- you can't trade your comfort for resources toward a greater goal
- women have absolute legal power
- women have no obligations or duties in how they behave
- most of the masculinity exhibited by married men is performative and trivial
- every mechanism to control a wife's behavior is seen as "abuse"
Even knowing all of this, and generally agreeing with it, I still think the costs and sacrifices are worth it as long as you go in for the purposes of having children. Unless you are an incel genius like Isaac Newton or Nikolai Tesla then producing those children and doing your best to impart your values on to them, in spite of everything arrayed against you, is your "greater purpose".
That's just the thing. No one is "shaming", by telling people the truth.
Pouting and refusing to participate in society is self defeating. Worse even, since it guarantees that you won't ever get what they say they want.
Pointing this out is not "shaming", though I constantly see that word being thrown about to deflect. If they feel ashamed it's because in their hearts they know they're wrong.