https://rumble.com/v4ng5sr-njf-on-marriage.html
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summary:
- you can't take risks
- you can't trade your comfort for resources toward a greater goal
- women have absolute legal power
- women have no obligations or duties in how they behave
- most of the masculinity exhibited by married men is performative and trivial
- every mechanism to control a wife's behavior is seen as "abuse"
Even knowing all of this, and generally agreeing with it, I still think the costs and sacrifices are worth it as long as you go in for the purposes of having children. Unless you are an incel genius like Isaac Newton or Nikolai Tesla then producing those children and doing your best to impart your values on to them, in spite of everything arrayed against you, is your "greater purpose".
I think it's 30% for first time marriages. To use an autistic math analogy the breakeven point for a rational decision maker would if the bad outcome were 7/3 times (a little more than double) as bad as the good outcome is good. You can't quantify things exactly of course, but I don't think it's hard to argue that the losses from a divorce rape exceed 7/3 of the gains from a good marriage. That's of course assuming the 70% who stay in their marriages all have good marriages, and we know that's not true either, so the analysis leans even more against marriage than my numbers above.