https://rumble.com/v4ng5sr-njf-on-marriage.html
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summary:
- you can't take risks
- you can't trade your comfort for resources toward a greater goal
- women have absolute legal power
- women have no obligations or duties in how they behave
- most of the masculinity exhibited by married men is performative and trivial
- every mechanism to control a wife's behavior is seen as "abuse"
Even knowing all of this, and generally agreeing with it, I still think the costs and sacrifices are worth it as long as you go in for the purposes of having children. Unless you are an incel genius like Isaac Newton or Nikolai Tesla then producing those children and doing your best to impart your values on to them, in spite of everything arrayed against you, is your "greater purpose".
Nick is a very talented guy, but being gay or at least bisexual, his perspective is a little biased. Yes, dude is gay. He had a date with a catboy and got caught with a tab of gay porn on one of his alts.
He is correct on the broad strokes, without a doubt, but I agree with you that kids are extremely valuable. Also, this concept is growing increasingly foreign and I get the feeling that many people here haven't even seen it in action, but there is such thing as a woman with her head screwed on straight, or at least as much as could ever be expected for a woman. The chance that Brittany Sellner is going to divorce rape Martin Sellner, for those of you familiar with alt-right personalities, is pretty low.
I sound a little pollyanna for these parts, but let me remind you we're talking about the survival of the human race. Artificial wombs aren't coming to save you.
AWALT
I'm considering making a post on this, but because I've been going to church for basically my whole life, I know a lot of women in various life stages and many of them would fit the definition of a "good woman." If you've been lovingly supporting your husband and kids for 60 years, what more is there to say? AWALT, but Christianity and religion in general tempers the Pandora's chaos of womanhood. That's how civilization has been able to survive for thousands of years.
There's a lot of things you don't know about the innerworkings of a relationship that you'd never know from casual observation though. Does she put out? Is she actually attractive? It's one thing to stick around for the husband's stability and resources but it's another to actually give men what they want.
That's what I was getting at when I said a significant portion of marriages that don't end in divorce rape are still miserable. Divorce rape is a major risk, but not the only one. If she sticks around is she making the man's life better or is he a beta slave waiting for the sweet mercy of death?
It's also why "look around, all kinds of men are in relationships" isn't a valid counterargument to the 80/20, 95/5, or whatever rule. We know that women will leech off men for resources. They do it to non-Chads all the time. Men want a good relationship, not a grifting whore who works him into an early grave to pay for the lifestyle she feels entitled to while she fucks the guy she actually wants on the side.
It goes without saying that nothing is perfect, but if husband and wife love each other and the children grow up healthy, no one can say it's not worth it. Also "is she attractive" is definitely observable from the outside lol.