I met my wife on Tinder specifically because of a model-level headshot I posted that was professionally edited with photoshop (Friend of mine wanted some practice editing and did it for free). Every single match I had reached out because they said the headshot looked good, and no other reason. Not saying I'm a super attractive guy or anything but it was clearly looks that got my foot in the door.
I know lots of other guys who never got a single Tinder match and it's because their photos were unattractive. They ended up saying Tinder was a "scam" and that "no one meets anyone there."
Granted, most men aren't exactly going to swallow the advice of 'Just get a professional photographer to take your photos so you have a chance of getting a date on tinder' very easily, even if you're right.
Getting metaphorically punched in the balls yet again with the reminder that men have to jump through hoops while women just show up doesn't exactly encourage a healthy mindset.
Plus, there's the added mythology that women don't really pay attention to attractiveness(which is bullshit), so they're getting hit from both sides.
If every man gets a professional photo shoot done, then it becomes the minimum standard and no longer puts you above other men. Same with the "get jacked bruh" advice wheeled out at every opportunity.
Unfortunately in life there will be winners and losers and unlike being injected everywhere else, there is zero appetite for equity in dating.
Once everyone has a professionally done photo to stand out, no one has a photo to stand out. Same with every guy trying to get jacked.
You're right that there are simply some winners and some losers in the game of life, and it's about navigating the waters to the best of your ability without purposely losing yourself in an unfair and lopsided mating game.
I'm not sure why you would think women 'just show up,' they put extreme effort into their photos.
Really, improving your headshot is one of the easiest and cheapest things men can do to improve their odds. Cleaning yourself up and looking presentable is hardly a harsh imposition.
I assumed most people on Tinder these days wanted quick hookups. If that sort of impression is felt by others, and adding the negative results of your acquaintances, it might make sense to make that claim.
Obviously you found someone there, so maybe my assumption isn't accurate?
It depends on when he found her as well. My understanding is that the algorithm sucked a lot less prior to 2017 or so. It's definitely a hookup app, but the gap between standards for hookup and LTR are shrinking. Women are getting more and more willing to take their cats and wine if they can't have a billionaire Gigachad.
I think you're responding to the wrong person? I completely agree that dating apps are a scam, but as much as they exacerbate the problem they're not the cause. The fact is that as long as women have unreasonable expectations building a functional dating app is impossible. It doesn't excuse all the sleazy shit the apps pull, but women's entitlement is going to create a shitty experience no matter what the apps do.
And arguably, it's worse than that - women are more than willing to be misrable, but even worse are the ones basically allowing for defacto harems where one Chad basically runs through a horde of women, and the women let him.
That... yeah, that's not going to end up anywhere good.
It was in the very early days of Tinder. Nowadays I hear the meat market is actually instagram. Having a couple good photos really improves your chances.
I don't know why men are so resistant to the idea of putting effort into their appearance. I always say that women need to stop complaining and accept reality, but that goes for men too.
I met my wife on Tinder specifically because of a model-level headshot I posted that was professionally edited with photoshop (Friend of mine wanted some practice editing and did it for free). Every single match I had reached out because they said the headshot looked good, and no other reason. Not saying I'm a super attractive guy or anything but it was clearly looks that got my foot in the door.
I know lots of other guys who never got a single Tinder match and it's because their photos were unattractive. They ended up saying Tinder was a "scam" and that "no one meets anyone there."
Granted, most men aren't exactly going to swallow the advice of 'Just get a professional photographer to take your photos so you have a chance of getting a date on tinder' very easily, even if you're right.
Getting metaphorically punched in the balls yet again with the reminder that men have to jump through hoops while women just show up doesn't exactly encourage a healthy mindset.
Plus, there's the added mythology that women don't really pay attention to attractiveness(which is bullshit), so they're getting hit from both sides.
If every man gets a professional photo shoot done, then it becomes the minimum standard and no longer puts you above other men. Same with the "get jacked bruh" advice wheeled out at every opportunity.
Unfortunately in life there will be winners and losers and unlike being injected everywhere else, there is zero appetite for equity in dating.
This.
Once everyone has a professionally done photo to stand out, no one has a photo to stand out. Same with every guy trying to get jacked.
You're right that there are simply some winners and some losers in the game of life, and it's about navigating the waters to the best of your ability without purposely losing yourself in an unfair and lopsided mating game.
I'm not sure why you would think women 'just show up,' they put extreme effort into their photos.
Really, improving your headshot is one of the easiest and cheapest things men can do to improve their odds. Cleaning yourself up and looking presentable is hardly a harsh imposition.
A bit off topic, but
I assumed most people on Tinder these days wanted quick hookups. If that sort of impression is felt by others, and adding the negative results of your acquaintances, it might make sense to make that claim.
Obviously you found someone there, so maybe my assumption isn't accurate?
It depends on when he found her as well. My understanding is that the algorithm sucked a lot less prior to 2017 or so. It's definitely a hookup app, but the gap between standards for hookup and LTR are shrinking. Women are getting more and more willing to take their cats and wine if they can't have a billionaire Gigachad.
I think you're responding to the wrong person? I completely agree that dating apps are a scam, but as much as they exacerbate the problem they're not the cause. The fact is that as long as women have unreasonable expectations building a functional dating app is impossible. It doesn't excuse all the sleazy shit the apps pull, but women's entitlement is going to create a shitty experience no matter what the apps do.
Statistical outliers gonna statistical outlier.
And arguably, it's worse than that - women are more than willing to be misrable, but even worse are the ones basically allowing for defacto harems where one Chad basically runs through a horde of women, and the women let him.
That... yeah, that's not going to end up anywhere good.
It was in the very early days of Tinder. Nowadays I hear the meat market is actually instagram. Having a couple good photos really improves your chances.
I don't know why men are so resistant to the idea of putting effort into their appearance. I always say that women need to stop complaining and accept reality, but that goes for men too.