Aye. It's a very easy thing to put off or avoid, until suddenly a person realizes they've just about run out of time.
I think what helped me put things in perspective was to realize just how integral raising a child can be just as part of the overall human experience. It's part of the very essence of biological life itself.
But even so, like you say, there are a lot of variables to factor in, both on the small scale and the large scale, and I think you put it far more eloquently than I can.
At the end of the day, one child is unlikely to make or break a person unless they are in an extreme position. And even one is worth having just to get your thoughts in line.
Because breeding is all life is meant to do, and our hormones and instincts are geared to it. Avoiding it will have consequences we cannot even fathom due to how deep they effect us. Its why so many of the redditors there are fucking miserable and can't understand why, and are lashing out at the answer in front of them.
I completely agree, and that falls in line with everything that had led to me changing my former tune.
Not that I'm a father yet myself, but I think developing at least some appreciation and understanding of it is a good part of the process. Maybe having given it some serious thought ahead of time will prepare me better for when I find myself actually becoming a father.
It's sad to see some of my friends who are very much well off and in healthy long-term relationships write off and reject the idea so thoroughly and adamantly. I used to think maybe it was just a phase a person had to enter into, based on age and experience, but now I'm not so sure that's the common case.
Aye. It's a very easy thing to put off or avoid, until suddenly a person realizes they've just about run out of time.
I think what helped me put things in perspective was to realize just how integral raising a child can be just as part of the overall human experience. It's part of the very essence of biological life itself.
But even so, like you say, there are a lot of variables to factor in, both on the small scale and the large scale, and I think you put it far more eloquently than I can.
At the end of the day, one child is unlikely to make or break a person unless they are in an extreme position. And even one is worth having just to get your thoughts in line.
Because breeding is all life is meant to do, and our hormones and instincts are geared to it. Avoiding it will have consequences we cannot even fathom due to how deep they effect us. Its why so many of the redditors there are fucking miserable and can't understand why, and are lashing out at the answer in front of them.
I completely agree, and that falls in line with everything that had led to me changing my former tune.
Not that I'm a father yet myself, but I think developing at least some appreciation and understanding of it is a good part of the process. Maybe having given it some serious thought ahead of time will prepare me better for when I find myself actually becoming a father.
It's sad to see some of my friends who are very much well off and in healthy long-term relationships write off and reject the idea so thoroughly and adamantly. I used to think maybe it was just a phase a person had to enter into, based on age and experience, but now I'm not so sure that's the common case.