At the end of the day, one child is unlikely to make or break a person unless they are in an extreme position. And even one is worth having just to get your thoughts in line.
Because breeding is all life is meant to do, and our hormones and instincts are geared to it. Avoiding it will have consequences we cannot even fathom due to how deep they effect us. Its why so many of the redditors there are fucking miserable and can't understand why, and are lashing out at the answer in front of them.
I completely agree, and that falls in line with everything that had led to me changing my former tune.
Not that I'm a father yet myself, but I think developing at least some appreciation and understanding of it is a good part of the process. Maybe having given it some serious thought ahead of time will prepare me better for when I find myself actually becoming a father.
It's sad to see some of my friends who are very much well off and in healthy long-term relationships write off and reject the idea so thoroughly and adamantly. I used to think maybe it was just a phase a person had to enter into, based on age and experience, but now I'm not so sure that's the common case.
At the end of the day, one child is unlikely to make or break a person unless they are in an extreme position. And even one is worth having just to get your thoughts in line.
Because breeding is all life is meant to do, and our hormones and instincts are geared to it. Avoiding it will have consequences we cannot even fathom due to how deep they effect us. Its why so many of the redditors there are fucking miserable and can't understand why, and are lashing out at the answer in front of them.
I completely agree, and that falls in line with everything that had led to me changing my former tune.
Not that I'm a father yet myself, but I think developing at least some appreciation and understanding of it is a good part of the process. Maybe having given it some serious thought ahead of time will prepare me better for when I find myself actually becoming a father.
It's sad to see some of my friends who are very much well off and in healthy long-term relationships write off and reject the idea so thoroughly and adamantly. I used to think maybe it was just a phase a person had to enter into, based on age and experience, but now I'm not so sure that's the common case.