People adore bringing out that one statistical outlier they know - the fat/ugly guy that somehow slays with women and/or has a good relationship.
They're either lying, or
they're ignoring the fact that said guy likely has a metric shitton of social skills to counteract the fact that they're lacking in other departments.
Meeting people is good for polishing social skills, because it's a skill, and skills can be learned, but people rarely phrase it that way - they push it as a cure-all to try and play the odds.
A zero-zero example isn't an outlier, it's normal. People match with similar attractiveness.
I will say, he's good at social skills, and is the most social person in my friend group (I'm actually the objectively worst). She's pretty bad with social skills, but she loves being a woman of simple tastes and joys. She is already unable to be independent as it is for a litany of reasons.
Relationships aren't about what is positions in objective reality. It's just about what you have in reference to the other person. You might have poor social skills as a man, but if they are significantly better than hers, that's a win for her.
Also on the flipside of the coin, it is very rare to find a person who genuinely has no attractive features, like the Elephant Man or something. There are a lot of 5/10 men and women who can be attractive to each other. I think people understand this more the farther you get from major cities.
5/10s also usually understand "I'm not perfect." A major problem once you hit the higher attractiveness setting is that when faced with criticism or asked to adapt, said hottie will simply say "nah I got a line waiting outside for their chance, bye."
Whereas an average person most of the time will be willing to adapt to better fit your side of the coin to compliment and end up more attractive to you for it.
Of course, society has turned even 5/10 girls completely delusional and thereby to reach the level where they are willing to act like an average idiot you need to reach down to the 3/10 level, but that's another issue.
In fairness, it could be a 1:1 or a 1:0 relationship. He's smarter and more social than her. His utility to her is astronomical, compared to what she could do by herself. On the other hand, she genuinely loves him and makes him happy and appreciated, and he wasn't gonna get that from many other people.
It's a win-win for them because you don't have relationships based on objective scores, they are all based on subjectivity and relativity.
People adore bringing out that one statistical outlier they know - the fat/ugly guy that somehow slays with women and/or has a good relationship.
Meeting people is good for polishing social skills, because it's a skill, and skills can be learned, but people rarely phrase it that way - they push it as a cure-all to try and play the odds.
A zero-zero example isn't an outlier, it's normal. People match with similar attractiveness.
I will say, he's good at social skills, and is the most social person in my friend group (I'm actually the objectively worst). She's pretty bad with social skills, but she loves being a woman of simple tastes and joys. She is already unable to be independent as it is for a litany of reasons.
Relationships aren't about what is positions in objective reality. It's just about what you have in reference to the other person. You might have poor social skills as a man, but if they are significantly better than hers, that's a win for her.
Also on the flipside of the coin, it is very rare to find a person who genuinely has no attractive features, like the Elephant Man or something. There are a lot of 5/10 men and women who can be attractive to each other. I think people understand this more the farther you get from major cities.
5/10s also usually understand "I'm not perfect." A major problem once you hit the higher attractiveness setting is that when faced with criticism or asked to adapt, said hottie will simply say "nah I got a line waiting outside for their chance, bye."
Whereas an average person most of the time will be willing to adapt to better fit your side of the coin to compliment and end up more attractive to you for it.
Of course, society has turned even 5/10 girls completely delusional and thereby to reach the level where they are willing to act like an average idiot you need to reach down to the 3/10 level, but that's another issue.
In fairness, it could be a 1:1 or a 1:0 relationship. He's smarter and more social than her. His utility to her is astronomical, compared to what she could do by herself. On the other hand, she genuinely loves him and makes him happy and appreciated, and he wasn't gonna get that from many other people.
It's a win-win for them because you don't have relationships based on objective scores, they are all based on subjectivity and relativity.