The technique is called DAARVO, it basically is how narcissists manipulate by claiming the victim is the predator and the predator is the victim.

Let's say a guy broke into your house, knocked you unconscious and raped your wife.

But this guy is our new hero for sone reason.

I would say that in college you had been accused of forcing yourself on your girfriend, and had been fired from a job for assaulting a coworker.