Surprised no one has mentioned the mom and "spouse" are lesbian. That, no doubt, played a damn big role.

I knew multiple kids in in middle/high school who had gay parents.

The guys I knew who had gay dads both become masculine, traditional, based, found religion, etc. They both still have good relationships with their dad, but not close.

The two guys I knew who had lesbian moms are insane basketcases. Depression, anxiety, you name it.

A friend of a very close friend is a married lesbian raising a boy. I feel so sick and sad for that kid.