They hate femininity because they are fundamentally following the path of satan, even when they aren't explicitly satanists. They can't accept the very concept of a natural order because accepting it might require them to take responsibility for their actions.

Femininity is accepting that men are stronger and smarter and better at making difficult decisions, working under pressure, being accountable for results, etc. And not delusionally competing with men because it is obvious women are inferior to men at every objectively measurable activity.

Instead leaning into womens strengths of establishing and maintaining relationships and assisting her husband, family, and community in strengthening their social bonds.