The problem is failure to understand that women don't actually have agency.

They don't whore around and abandon families because they want to, they do it because they've been told to, and don't have the ability to resist.

Women who "make good choices" all have positive influences telling them to make those choices. If they don't, they listen to the TV, magazines, influencers, etc.

You can blame women all you want, but the reality is that men tolerated feminism, which ultimately posits that women can "choose for themselves". Everything else follows from there.