It’s not funny, it’s just… Horrible. Elitist, classist, sexist, just… Rank. Heckling (by some autistic bloke who actually works here), and just… So bad.
I got convinced to go to this thing. It’s like, as local as you could get, for me, but yeah…
Dunno if comedy is like this where you live, but man, in this “hipster bar”, dear god there is no way this was worth the cover charge.
Eugh…
True, but I actually would prefer to “suffer through” nights like tonight than spend yet another night on the internet, bored and alone, like I normally do…
I’m an extrovert. I (genuinely) like people. I’m not saying I “like” this sort of culture, or the way society (including locally) is headed, but I fucking love just… Hanging out.
And you don’t tend to meet women, or even people more broadly, by shutting yourself away…
Trust me, I should know. Isolation quite literally kills.
If I hadn’t gone to a relatively “mass culture” (blues and rock. Much more boomer/Gen X than Millennial) music festival, earlier this year, I’m sincerely not sure I would still be here…
I can’t live without random human contact. May sound odd, but seriously… Even if it means putting up with the exact shit we just talked about, I just… I can’t go without that, dude. I literally need that.
I appreciate that is not the same for everyone. There’s a reason bars and clubs are dying out.
But for me, when I can afford it/someone invites me along..? It’s really all I’ve got, dude, so I just… I’ve got to get out of the house somehow, for some “legit-feeling” reason. Even if it hurts at the time.
I’ve been too (physically) sick to have adequate time and money for hobbies. This is… About all I have.
Okay, maybe that's just my experience. I could go months with no human contact, and be quite happy. All the problems in our cultures are caused by the people in our cultures. Both those ruining it, and those letting them.
I suppose you should never 'step back' from society too far, since looking at it objectively can be horrifying. Then you'd really be screwed.
I mean, you have to remember that I don't have... A house to call my own, or that I'm comfortable in, or even really ever alone in, to go back to... So...
It's not that I'm averse to the idea of "no human contact", per se. It's more that... Being at "home" is so awful that anywhere, anywhere at all, is better than this.
Only way I can really "get" what you describe is to go on holiday, which I can't afford, or to go camping, which... Just isn't possible right now. For a variety of reasons.
So trust me, it's not that I don't understand. It's just that "my" house, or even my "section" of it, isn't that sort of... Haven. And I can't escape into some sort of virtual/online world, again, because reasons...
Does that make more sense? Like, I "get" your drift. I do understand. I just... Don't have "access" to that same thing, in my own... "Private space", right now, and probably won't have for some time, barring some sort of miracle....
Sadly and unfortunately.
But having said all that, I am also definitely an extrovert, if a very shy, socially awkward one, lol...
That's... An important "difference", maybe.
I get my "energy" from "good" social interactions. Without those, I sort of... "Skin starve".
Not that I couldn't survive without. I just... "Need" it, to feel ok.
I don't get any of that... "Energy" (at all) from those I live with, though, lol. Or at least nothing "positive", in that sense. Put it that way...
That's kind of the key thing/point, ha.
Extroverts are not "very shy, socially awkward".
If you get energy from social interactions, why aren't you doing them MUCH more? And if you are doing them, why have you not built up confidence through all that experience? Why would you still be awkward?
Shyness and being awkward are marks of a lack of confidence and a lack of experience. If you are truly an extrovert, you should have neither, you should be putting yourself out in social situations until you get over both your shyness and awkwardness. You should be building your social network, because that's what extroverts do.