First of all, pedantry is the entire point, because we are arguing about definitions.

No, you are arguing definitions. Its pointless to engage in it because you already conceded to the unfalsifiable position of "well words mean completely different things where I and he are from." There isn't anywhere else to go if you are operating from that position.

You have a pre-arranged obligation to love your children as a parent, as a matter of child rearing, initially. That is an entitlement to the child

So you agree with me anyway. Great, then we truly have no further argument anyway. Especially as Tony went a completely different direction than you attempted to ascribe to him that started this.