Its called Things Fall Apart.

Yup, that's it.

You want some real toxic masculinity?

I like the part where they were like, "You can beat your wife, but only for so long, and as a disciplinary measure. Sure, if she didn't make you dinner, a corrective slap is in order. But you, you crazy fuck, beat her up so bad she fled for her life by climbing over a wall and you pulled her back down! WORSE: you beat her up ON A HOLIDAY! What kind of fucking savage beats their wife on a holiday dedicated to the god of the home!"

Western sensibilities: "Wait, hang on. There's some priorities amiss here."

I remember seeing some training videos that were shown to US soldiers going over to the UK during the war where it was an older British woman inviting a black soldier over for tea, and the white soldier had to explain to the audience "You may not like it, but that is how it is over there."

W.E.B. DuBouis has a scathing article where he was leaked a copy of instruction by the French Army, to French Soldiers, explaining why Americans were so obsessive about Race, and that the Americans had explicitly demanded that French soldiers stop treating American blacks like everyone else.

All sorts of crazy shit like "American blacks aren't like Algerians, they are savages who were taught civilization through slavery", and "American negros can't be trusted because they are animalistic", and "No American white will tolerate interacting with a Negro".

It's just amazing to me that the French were like, "We know what black people are. Look: Algerians!" And the Americans were just REEEEE-ing like crazy screaming "NO IT'S DIFFERENT!"