I decided to try out tinder and discovered the site is absolute garbage. There are no real browsing options, interest selection is limited, there are fucking trannies who failed to properly disclose their status so they show up where they shouldn't, and it prohibits you from manually disclosing your location by forcing you to use location services.
Edit: Was likely banned for saying in the account description I hate regressive leftists and muslims, and also for saying I hate gender identity. Another possibility was that defending lolicon got me wrongfully banned for pro-pedo speech.
EHarmony was worse than Tinder, for me…
Plenty of matches. Zero conversations that actually went anywhere…
Yep. For every 100 messages I send only about 1 or 2 reply
It’s funny, isn’t it? I “matched” with a girl on there who was like a perfect match (same hobbies and interests, same sort of… Ideals), and she never replied…
I even took it offline, because… Tangential connection (i.e. we had mutual friends and stuff), and she still never fucking replied.
Needless to say, got unmatched, ha.
Had some other bad experiences there, too… Scammers and the like. So I gave up, after a while. Not worth paying for. 🤷🏻♂️
Honestly, if you can (outside of pandemic times), sometimes it is actually worth moving cities, to somewhere with a more transient population, or just… More travellers, and trying to meet people in person.
Like, moving from a smaller city to a bigger one. Or even just… Travelling for a bit.
I know the US doesn’t really have backpacker hostels, so much, but they are literally the best place to meet women. By far…
Anything to do with backpackers is excellent. Provided you probably aren’t looking to like… Marry them. But even then… 🤷🏻♂️
I’m weirdly like… “Bluepilled” about this. I honestly feel that if you just put yourself out there (which I’m not great at, btw), convey confidence enough, and don’t say anything too stupid, you can probably do ok with this…
I’m genuinely terrified of the whole thing. Like, I have an anxiety complex about it. So much so that I actually can’t think properly, in these situations… It’s quite hard to explain. But it is crippling… So if I can do it, both online and in person..? I honestly think almost any dude can.
It just takes practice. And confidence which I don’t have, lol.
I met my wife in grad school. I had zero luck dating in undergrad, but a shitload of luck in grad school.
I would not have done well at the random dating scene at that point in my life.