That's because there's two different processes going on. On one hand, you have feminists who increasingly call anything with sexy women sexist, so you have society becoming more prudish, lest they be cancelled.

On the other hand, you have a process called "queering", defined as "to challenge the dominance of heterosexist discourses, according to New Discourses. So, anything sexy that involves LGBT people is perfectly acceptable.

One result of this is that people that I know wouldn't be caught dead in a Hooters due to the low cut uniform shirt are applauding a local restaurant that has begun hosting drag shows.