Women aren't in the same boat. Men say what they want and tell women how to do it. Dont be fat, don't be a whore, dont steal or kill my kids. Women actively interfere in men's financial capability by their voting, their control of education, and their control of HR. Women also reward the exact behavior they complain about which is low commitment men blowing smoke up their ass long enough to get laid and then leave them behind with a bastard.

The average man has 0 power in this arrangement. The average woman could have sex with a randomer to raise the birth rate immediately, and the massive welfare system will support any decision she makes. Women also only vote for policies that facilitate being massive whores. If women wanted adultery laws and mandatory DNA tests we would have them.