YES. EXACTLY. Which is why it's important to introduce incremental service and self-reliance, rather than dropping the baby bird out of the nest all at once and expecting it to make a good run of it.
It's like those adults who sneer and scoff at kids in restaurants. They want them shuttered and instructed at home, to somehow learn how to behave in public, without ever actually practicing how to behave in public. That's weirdo thinking.
Which is what I think about "oh no no never have a teenager help with the family finances heavens no, they need that money to lift their honda civics with the undercarriage lights. They'll learn how to use a checkbook when they have to pay back a two-hundred-thousand-dollar loan for their black lesbian studies degree."
Helplessness is the default
YES. EXACTLY. Which is why it's important to introduce incremental service and self-reliance, rather than dropping the baby bird out of the nest all at once and expecting it to make a good run of it.
It's like those adults who sneer and scoff at kids in restaurants. They want them shuttered and instructed at home, to somehow learn how to behave in public, without ever actually practicing how to behave in public. That's weirdo thinking.
Which is what I think about "oh no no never have a teenager help with the family finances heavens no, they need that money to lift their honda civics with the undercarriage lights. They'll learn how to use a checkbook when they have to pay back a two-hundred-thousand-dollar loan for their black lesbian studies degree."