Everywhere you go you'll always hear and see people talking about or engaging in positive and enjoyable social experiences like it's the most normal thing in the world, and they speak about them as though it's a given that everyone is able to experience while being completely ignorant and dismissive of men like me who are unwanted everywhere I go and hated everywhere I stay. It's absolute torture to see everyone enjoying themselves like this in a way I'd kill to experience all while they're right in front of me. It's just like back in school where every day at lunch I'd be stuck being subjected to seeing others having far more enjoyable lives than me while I was stuck either being alone or at best talking to someone who annoys me. Why can't I have what it seems like comes so easily to everybody else?
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People need to look into psychological games (transactional analysis), the big famous one 'why don't you - yes but'. It's basically when you have two people, and one has a problem, the other offers takes on a solution giving role, but each solution just gets shot down as somehow unworkable. And it gets repeated. Every single solution gets a "yes, but..." answer.
There's two main times you'll see it being played
Women play that game a lot, they just wanna whinge and get 'sympathy', not actually have the thing solved.
Depressed people play it too, in a sicker, more pathological form (sorry imp). It's clear that tcd isn't actually looking for advice to act on. What he's looking to do is shoot down advice, and in so doing justify his state and belief that everything is helpless. Each bit of advice you give him that he is able to reject as somehow unworkable just serves to further reinforce his sick belief.
It's retarded. We can all plainly see that of course it helps with getting a social life. And it might not literally restore youth but getting fitter does absolutely get you feeling and looking younger and give you more time down the track. In a vacuum it's good advice. Like the jogging. I don't think there is a single man here who doesn't think the same, and doesn't know it would at least help. But that's not what he's here to do. He's here to shoot down your advice.
So my advice to you all, is to stop playing. Don't let yourself be manipulated by depressed people. It takes two people to play this game, and nobody ends up better after doing it. He ends up more convinced its all helpless, and you end up frustrated and fatigued.
That's an interesting point about depressed people, but I suspect TCD is just some sort of weird troll/shill.
I'm not a troll or a shill, everyone just assumes that when I describe my experience.
I'm doing basically everything that's put in front of me and it gets me nowhere misery. Social settings are just psychological torture to me as they show me what I crave within arms reach and yet I am denied access to these experiences
I did martial arts when I was younger and I made no friends from it, all I got out of it was many hours of my life wasted. No reason to think I'd be more successful now after so much more trauma added on, and besides that why would I even want to live longer? So I can live long enough to be truly alone once my family is dead?
Like I said, I'm not playing.
I'm not playing either, I'm trying to have genuine discussions but everyone always shuts me down and refuses to engage.