They don't care that much for the difference between sociopathic criminals & strong alpha men with restraint.

That's where social hierarchies come in. Men care about this and so women pick mates who are popular with men.

While all this other stuff has been happening, they also tore down the social hierarchies, especially those which only allowed men, like social clubs.

It's not any one thing, it's dozens of different things that all end up serving the same purpose; the destruction of White civilization.