Yeah I'm definitely the latter life of solitude category. I've always been that way though, but it's set in a lot more in the 40s. Just a personality trait. I'm hardly a hermit though, I have friends, family, business acquaintances, etc. Just not a woman.
I don't know how I'd do as an outgoing social person in such a place and I struggle to relate to that at times anyway. It's very much a hindsight is 20/20 thing but all my advice to the younger people I know is figure it out early. That's counter to what almost everyone else tells them with the whole figure your life out and go to college and shit before you even think about it, but I've never been one to go with the popular train of thought anyway.
I don't remember "you have tons of time, don't worry about it" ever being a thing that was truly told to young people for very long. I doubt young people even think like this. Most young people I talk to are upset they don't have everything now and feel life is race they're losing and it was like that when I was young too. That's probably where the "whoa, slow down" idea originated from because in some sense, some young people were putting too much pressure on themselves.
The problem in today's world is you can't just snap your fingers and have everything figured out. Some people simply will never get what they want in life no matter how "figured out" they have got things because a lot of the problems facing people today are, especially young people, are systemic.
A guy might have his whole life figured out at 18 years old. He's going to go to college, meet a woman, have kids, get a good job, buy a house, settle down, live happily ever after. Then he starts his journey and absolutely nothing goes as planned despite his effort. University didn't let him into the program because he get knocked for a diversity spot. Every woman he met just wanted to sleep around and didn't want kids. The only women that wanted what he wanted were fat and ugly so he passed. Before long he's got 50 different women under his belt, he's in a completely different career path and he can't advance his career either because H1Bs are taking over the industry. Before he knows it he's in his 30s, single, no house, no great career and has moved around 5 different times to different cities hoping for greener pastures but can't find it. You can tell young people to "figure it out early" as much as you want but some problems can't be solved even if you've figured things out because of the nature of our society.
Well I was speaking specifically about romance with that statement not the entirety of life. There's nothing wrong with a couple growing up together. Sure, it's still broken because that requires two people, but it's more of a simplistic advice to at least not plan to leave your "serious" relationships until you're 30. Maybe that's not common train of thought now, but it certainly was when I was a 20 year old. My thoughts probably aren't coming across in words because I just ramble on the internet and I'm not going back and editing to make sure the context is perfect. So perhaps figure it out isn't the best choice of words even only in the context of romance.
The rest of life, I'm not sure there's really ever any figuring out. Those who think they are done and finished and have everything in it's place are just sitting back waiting for the floor to fall out from under them.
Yeah I'm definitely the latter life of solitude category. I've always been that way though, but it's set in a lot more in the 40s. Just a personality trait. I'm hardly a hermit though, I have friends, family, business acquaintances, etc. Just not a woman.
I don't know how I'd do as an outgoing social person in such a place and I struggle to relate to that at times anyway. It's very much a hindsight is 20/20 thing but all my advice to the younger people I know is figure it out early. That's counter to what almost everyone else tells them with the whole figure your life out and go to college and shit before you even think about it, but I've never been one to go with the popular train of thought anyway.
I don't remember "you have tons of time, don't worry about it" ever being a thing that was truly told to young people for very long. I doubt young people even think like this. Most young people I talk to are upset they don't have everything now and feel life is race they're losing and it was like that when I was young too. That's probably where the "whoa, slow down" idea originated from because in some sense, some young people were putting too much pressure on themselves.
The problem in today's world is you can't just snap your fingers and have everything figured out. Some people simply will never get what they want in life no matter how "figured out" they have got things because a lot of the problems facing people today are, especially young people, are systemic.
A guy might have his whole life figured out at 18 years old. He's going to go to college, meet a woman, have kids, get a good job, buy a house, settle down, live happily ever after. Then he starts his journey and absolutely nothing goes as planned despite his effort. University didn't let him into the program because he get knocked for a diversity spot. Every woman he met just wanted to sleep around and didn't want kids. The only women that wanted what he wanted were fat and ugly so he passed. Before long he's got 50 different women under his belt, he's in a completely different career path and he can't advance his career either because H1Bs are taking over the industry. Before he knows it he's in his 30s, single, no house, no great career and has moved around 5 different times to different cities hoping for greener pastures but can't find it. You can tell young people to "figure it out early" as much as you want but some problems can't be solved even if you've figured things out because of the nature of our society.
Well I was speaking specifically about romance with that statement not the entirety of life. There's nothing wrong with a couple growing up together. Sure, it's still broken because that requires two people, but it's more of a simplistic advice to at least not plan to leave your "serious" relationships until you're 30. Maybe that's not common train of thought now, but it certainly was when I was a 20 year old. My thoughts probably aren't coming across in words because I just ramble on the internet and I'm not going back and editing to make sure the context is perfect. So perhaps figure it out isn't the best choice of words even only in the context of romance.
The rest of life, I'm not sure there's really ever any figuring out. Those who think they are done and finished and have everything in it's place are just sitting back waiting for the floor to fall out from under them.