Ultimately, they conclude that the solution is to start pandering to male voters like they do other racial and gender groups, but make it so that it doesnt sound like pandering as that does turn off male voters.

But they can't. Their pandering to other groups isn't just saying "We think you're better than white men", it's also backed up by policy discriminating in favor of those groups. You can't discriminate in favor of everyone, and at this point, even simply not discriminating against men is an extreme right-wing position and would never even be considered by any politically viable democrat.

You can't pander to a group in your messaging while actively discriminating against them at every level of society and expect them not to notice the discrepancy eventually. Especially if all your messaging up to that point was the opposite.