Personally, I'm of the opinion that it was an actual tragedy that has been conspiratorially inflated and exaggerated for political leverage.

I am of similar belief. I'd even be willing to say whatever did happen was probably pretty horrific in the general sense, even if the Jews brought it entirely on themselves with their actions prior.

And it only takes living in the modern era for a few minutes to see how quickly they will turn anything into a gigantic psychodrama exaggerated to the heavens to try and guilt you into giving them power and money.

Regardless of that though, enough time has past that it should just be history and whatever happened should be left in history instead of a cudgel like they wield it as. Whatever your grandpa went through is meaningless to your current actions.