You're right. Men need to remember that all male/female relations are driven by deep biology. Women are hardwired to seek stability, even if they don't know it consciously. Their goal is to create a safe environment for raising children. As far as a woman is concerned, confidence = stability, and wealth = stability. That's why it's so attractive to them. It's also why they can be insufferable consensus builders.

Men are mostly only concerned with genetic fitness, which is why we go for looks and youth.