I can tell you exactly where it started. It was when “women” entered the space. You have to remember the majority women think in terms of relationships not in the relationship itself. If a man isn’t completely honest and doesn’t scream “I’m Spider-Man and this is my girlfriend” it’s a betrayal to women because it doesn’t place them as Spider-Man’s girlfriend and superior to other relationships.
Almost any space of value is a hierarchy, explicit or otherwise. Women automatically and necessarily invalidate male hierarchies simply by participating in them. Because competing directly with women is lose/lose for men. When you win - and men almost always win on fair competition - then you will be accused of having some nebulous unfair advantage. You will then be handicapped. If you lose, then you’re a losing loser who deserved to lose - even after you were literally handicapped for no reason other than your gender. Men recognize this dynamic instinctively. We have evolved to avoid and abandon co-ed spaces.
Whatever is it is comes from the kind of person who thinks their own personal feelings should be considered above the situation. "I wasn't special enough for this special thing to be shared, I think I should have been special enough, this drives a wedge between us because you don't think I'm as special as I do and that makes me insecure."
I believe that was the last thing that went through Gwen Stacey's mind. No wait, it was the concrete as she hit the floor in Amazing Spider-Man 2 after her relationship led to her capture and then death 🙃
I can tell you exactly where it started. It was when “women” entered the space. You have to remember the majority women think in terms of relationships not in the relationship itself. If a man isn’t completely honest and doesn’t scream “I’m Spider-Man and this is my girlfriend” it’s a betrayal to women because it doesn’t place them as Spider-Man’s girlfriend and superior to other relationships.
Almost any space of value is a hierarchy, explicit or otherwise. Women automatically and necessarily invalidate male hierarchies simply by participating in them. Because competing directly with women is lose/lose for men. When you win - and men almost always win on fair competition - then you will be accused of having some nebulous unfair advantage. You will then be handicapped. If you lose, then you’re a losing loser who deserved to lose - even after you were literally handicapped for no reason other than your gender. Men recognize this dynamic instinctively. We have evolved to avoid and abandon co-ed spaces.
"Wanna know my secret identity?" -Batman
Whatever is it is comes from the kind of person who thinks their own personal feelings should be considered above the situation. "I wasn't special enough for this special thing to be shared, I think I should have been special enough, this drives a wedge between us because you don't think I'm as special as I do and that makes me insecure."
I believe that was the last thing that went through Gwen Stacey's mind. No wait, it was the concrete as she hit the floor in Amazing Spider-Man 2 after her relationship led to her capture and then death 🙃
[Yes I know whiplash kills her in the comic]