Read a tweet today about why Gen Z men are not "manning up" and cold approaching women. It's obviously the fear of getting your life ruined, not the fear of rejection.
This is established fact for virtually anyone who's ever thought about the subject (besides NPCs).
But my thought is even if you somehow took away the risk of ruining your life, there are a lot of problems with expecting men to find relationships by walking into the buzzsaw of cold approaches over and over. First of all, it kind of hurts to get turned down based on your physical appearance, and the appearance of 80% of men is inadequate on its own. You can make up for that with banter and flirting. But is it realistic to expect every man, or even most men, to develop the level of game needed to pick up girls off the street?
Second, most attractive women you see on the street already have a boyfriend. Not a meme boyfriend, an actual dude. Now it is true that if you're Timothee Chalamet you can probably turn half of those women into cheating hoes, but why would you want to given that you're going for a serious relationship? In the end it's just very awkward for both parties to go through the script again and again. "Sorry, I have a boyfriend." [forced smile] "Oh, my bad sorry"
In the past women were somewhat more likely to take cold approaches as a compliment. Disclaimer: somewhat more likely. Today the infinite choice of online dating has more than filled women's thirst to be admired, so getting approached in public mostly makes them annoyed for the same reason that most people prefer to be emailed rather than called.
There is a way for guys who aren't male models to be attractive to women: get to know them in a mutual community so their appreciation of your positive features overcomes the "ick" and "he's not a kpop boy band member" factors that they initially notice. People can also figure out who's in a relationship and who's looking without embarrassing themselves. This form of courtship, coincidentally, has been attacked by each successive sexual revolution.
I'm generalizing in several places, but I doubt that most relationships are going to happen through cold approach in a healthy society, whether that's in person or on a Jewish dating app.
sure. The world is a hostile place. Plenty of forces want you robbed to your last cent at best, raped and dying in a ditch at worst (or, not even at worst, they have plenty of imagination).
The basic design of every society implies that you, as an adult, are capable of identifying, and brushing aside the crude obviously hostile manipulative "social engineering" shit.
It is supposed to be the job of churches, unions, clubs and all other low-level groups to help you with this. Instead, they all sold us out.
churches, I blame the most for this. They're the ones suposed to have the most stable moral compass. When all else fails, a beacon of meaning in a sea of despair. And they squandered it all on bullshit crusades.
I'm increasingly coming to the conclusion that our fathers and grand fathers were and are traitors to their God, sons and country.
Don't be so hard on them. Nobody would have even been around to tell them they were wrong. You're lucky to have born with access to the internet. Before that, there was no conservative media, and Rush Limbaugh had to basically personally save AM radio just to tap into it. Worse, if you think the Tech Giants are bad, you should have seen what the FCC was up to.
Before that, the John Birch Society had to mail video recordings by catalog because no newspapers, radios, and TV stations wouldn't have carried them.
Before that... was the Progressive Era. Socialism was at it's peak popularity, and most normal people just accepted that Socialism was the way of the future, but what form was it supposed to take.
Truth is, we are the latest line of a Liberalization movements against Socialist societies. Your grandfathers had no idea that that was the case. They didn't know that FDR was a Democratic Socialist. He never called himself that, and declared that Hoover was spending too much money.
They certainly handed us a sinking boat. No guidance and a wasteland to inhabit.
Every day I wake up and wonder "why bother?"
The circumstances that my great-grandfather, grandfather, and father met their wives literally do not exist anymore.
There's blame to be placed, but I don't really put it at their feet.
I'm committed to church and I agree with this more and more. Either churches were complacent and materialistic, or highly motivated but blinkered and socially retarded.
It genuinely baffles me.
I find it hysterical that Catholics are lecturing people about the need for a good moral frame work, and institutional religion, when the pope is a fucking Communist that is theologically infallible.
Motherfucker, really? Where is your schism?!!
There's alot of gynocentric churches
In fairness, all of those "Civil Society Organizations" were all universally infiltrated by Leftists and weaponized against us.
Well, not the Unions. Those were always Leftist weapons that also made Civil Society gestures on top of that.
Although I've grown more sympathetic to Christianity over the years. The Christian Churches seem to have gotten worse. More than that, they priestly class seem to be a kind of middle-managerial class who are all default shit-libs normally anyway. I've actually stated multiple times that I think I could run a better church than most priests and pastors nowadays, as an anti-theist. Mostly because I would harp of absolute devotion to sacred duty, personal responsibility, and was prepared to meet people in their darkest places.
I don't know what the fuck middle-class churches are even for. If you can't feel the need for some proper fire & brimstone rants from the lockdowns, from the terrorism, from the attacks on children, from institutional support of demoralization, or from the aggressive weaponization of people's psyche via the media; what the fuck are you even doing?
If you, as a Christian, can't figure out that you are in a spiritual war right now that you, your family, your friends, and your neighbors have been LOSING, then what the fuck good are you?
If I were a genuine Christian, I'd be an uncompromising zealot waving around a broadsword and painting my chest with the colors of Saint George because we need an an American spiritual crusade. I don't understand what the hell Christians are doing. "Well, I don't know, maybe girls do have a penis?" WHAT ARE YOU DOING?
Nah. Women have historically been seen as the spiritual 'center' or 'focus' of the family(men deal with reality, women with the spiritual), so the majority of Christian teaching has pivoted to catering to women.
So, here we are. Gestures vaguely to everything.