I definitely get it. I have friends who are self declared feminists and are all into the society destroying mantra of the day and yet they are personally deeply miserable, broken people.

I've had some who've literally broken down and admit to me they just want kids and a traditionally strong relationships but they're getting older and pushed away anyone who'd actually give that to them. I do feel sorry for them, but the impetus is on them to change and they're not doing it.