I would if I had the time and resources look after an orphan but WOULDN'T in most circumstances be a stepdad.
Why? If I became a stepdad, I'm dealing with a single mother that might've drove that man out so already a toxic influence on that kid and be planning to drive me out too after draining me. Orphan literally has no one so I'd rather try and help raise them with the sane part of my family than let the state mold them into their toy.
Only exception to being a stepdad is if she's a widow and 100% NOT responsible for in any way his death. Those ones could just be good wife/mother material but fate went fuck you so that's my exception.
I think that once you are in your 40's, you are going to realize that you're not going to have kids with your girlfriend or wife who is also in their 40's, making that really the only way you would even have something like kids.
Sure, your partner could have drove someone away, but she also could have made bad choices, and now she's with the only good choice she made yet.
Yeah, you can say "I'll live alone" but at that point, you're really looking at being well and truly alone when you spend 40-80 with absolutely no one by your side. Men and women really aren't meant to live like that.
There's also going to be a metric shit ton of it from people who grow old alone and realize that they have literally nothing to live for because they have no family.
It infuriates me no end that entire generations were raised with the goal of being financially successful rather than with the goal of creating a family. What good is money when all you can spend it on is mindless hedonism?
Sometimes you can love a kid that isn’t yours. My friend’s son years ago. I would have took him in if it was absolutely necessary (not likely). I also love my niece who’s in-law acquired and would take her in with my wife if necessary.
It's not for me, but I think it's respectable if you're not responsible for the kid's mother as well. One of the major the problems with getting involved with a single mother is that she's the head of the family, not you. That leaves you with all of the responsibility and none of the authority. Adopting an orphan pairs the responsibility with authority and avoids the issue. I'd never call a man in this situation a cuck if the kid's mother was out of the picture.
Yeah, one of my friend’s sons was like that me. I’d take him to fun things occasionally, went to some of his sports, etc. He’s 25 now with his own kid and still one of my better friends. I’d definitely had taken him in, and he stayed with me a couple months a few years ago when he was still trying to figure his life out. Then there’s my cousin’s kid I’ve mentioned in posts, yeah there’s no one in the world that if they were gone tomorrow I’d be more upset over. He’d be welcome here right now if something happened to my parents I’d I wouldn’t even have to think about it.
It's even worse. You're also most likely going to have to deal with the kid's father being in your life. And his parents if they want to be involved in their grandchild's life.
I have friend going through this nightmare salad spinner of fuck.
I would if I had the time and resources look after an orphan but WOULDN'T in most circumstances be a stepdad.
Why? If I became a stepdad, I'm dealing with a single mother that might've drove that man out so already a toxic influence on that kid and be planning to drive me out too after draining me. Orphan literally has no one so I'd rather try and help raise them with the sane part of my family than let the state mold them into their toy.
Only exception to being a stepdad is if she's a widow and 100% NOT responsible for in any way his death. Those ones could just be good wife/mother material but fate went fuck you so that's my exception.
I think that once you are in your 40's, you are going to realize that you're not going to have kids with your girlfriend or wife who is also in their 40's, making that really the only way you would even have something like kids.
Sure, your partner could have drove someone away, but she also could have made bad choices, and now she's with the only good choice she made yet.
Yeah, you can say "I'll live alone" but at that point, you're really looking at being well and truly alone when you spend 40-80 with absolutely no one by your side. Men and women really aren't meant to live like that.
Cue the uptick in suicides in the coming decades.
There's going to be a lot of that in all age groups thanks to lockdowns and transgenderism.
We have to raise the survivors.
There's also going to be a metric shit ton of it from people who grow old alone and realize that they have literally nothing to live for because they have no family.
It infuriates me no end that entire generations were raised with the goal of being financially successful rather than with the goal of creating a family. What good is money when all you can spend it on is mindless hedonism?
Sometimes you can love a kid that isn’t yours. My friend’s son years ago. I would have took him in if it was absolutely necessary (not likely). I also love my niece who’s in-law acquired and would take her in with my wife if necessary.
It's not for me, but I think it's respectable if you're not responsible for the kid's mother as well. One of the major the problems with getting involved with a single mother is that she's the head of the family, not you. That leaves you with all of the responsibility and none of the authority. Adopting an orphan pairs the responsibility with authority and avoids the issue. I'd never call a man in this situation a cuck if the kid's mother was out of the picture.
I would gladly help financially or with free legal work if any of my friends were suddenly bereaved but I couldn't ever raise a kid that's not mine.
Yeah, one of my friend’s sons was like that me. I’d take him to fun things occasionally, went to some of his sports, etc. He’s 25 now with his own kid and still one of my better friends. I’d definitely had taken him in, and he stayed with me a couple months a few years ago when he was still trying to figure his life out. Then there’s my cousin’s kid I’ve mentioned in posts, yeah there’s no one in the world that if they were gone tomorrow I’d be more upset over. He’d be welcome here right now if something happened to my parents I’d I wouldn’t even have to think about it.
It's even worse. You're also most likely going to have to deal with the kid's father being in your life. And his parents if they want to be involved in their grandchild's life.
I have friend going through this nightmare salad spinner of fuck.