Even before the rise of wokism, I can't think of a single game that ever got it accurately.

Let me direct you to the Mad Max 2015 game where the only women wandering around outside were dying of starvation or were either being actively raped or eaten by the bad guys (though if you approach the enemies engaging in such activity, the deeds were already done and you basically just encountered the aftermath in those cases, but if you used the binoculars at a distance you could basically tell what was going on before you approached).

The only prominent three females in the game included a concubine and her daughter, a drug-addled whore, and a crippled old woman who managed logistics at one of the few strongholds.

Otherwise, you are 100% correct. No game I can think of set in a post-apoc setting other than Mad Max got the role of a woman right. In that game, it was absolutely as brutal as it sounds and that was part of its charm -- it was unabashedly honest that the role of a woman in such a scenario would either be getting bent over (one way or another), helping maintain logistics within the confines of a walled domain protected by men, or being eaten.