I suggest everyone read this in full, it's very interesting although frustrating. And too long for me to highlight everything I find interesting.

I recently looked around...I counted the number of Black people there, including me. Four. And 23 white folks. These numbers used to be reversed. There’d be Black faces everywhere.

Over the last 20 years, the Black population in the neighborhood dropped from 74.9% to 40.9%, and the white population went from 2.4% to 32.7%. It makes me wonder, where do people go when they’re pushed out of neighborhoods they’ve lived in for generations?

Where do people go when they're pushed out of their countries? Also, must be nice to be able to care about your own race, and in a much more whiny and racist way than white people could ever get away with.

They were at the gym, the markets and the cafes. I saw them because I was in those same spaces, sometimes one of the few Black people there. There was no Miss Beverly sitting across from me inside here, and it could feel like crossing a racial picket line to order a latte.

Man, imagine writing this about Jews or blacks, or basically anyone but whites.

...I laughed along with her, trying to hide my embarrassment that I was excited to try the food. I felt like a sellout: a Black guy from a mostly white Massachusetts town still trying to straddle two lines of his identity.

...but I taught myself to code-switch and adapt to the rules of the class who ruled...My need to win them over doused me in shame...Why did I need their approval? ...I’m also the child who slapped himself over and over in the mirror because of his big lips, and his wide nose he’d learned was ugly.

It’s ingrained in us to prioritize the white gaze. When someone is arrested for a particularly bad crime, pretty much every Black person I know, regardless of their background, has the same response: “Please don’t let them be Black.” But what many of us are also thinking is, “Why are you making the rest of us look bad?”

*cough cough* FBI crime stats. A disproportionate amount of blacks are committing crime, which is why you hope it's not another black guy. And they are making the rest of the blacks look bad because, again, highly disproportionate.

This dude is just a self-hating black, black nationalist/supremacist. Sad and hilarious, really.

Choosing the white guy over the Black one on Grindr, and telling myself his race had nothing to do with it. Making assumptions about another Black person based on how they speak.

Hahaha, like I said. Extreme self-hatred.

I have a fourth grade class photo on my bedroom wall. That’s when my self-hatred was at its worst.

Whoa. And it used be worse...

When my brother was in high school, a table of white students in the lunchroom called his table of Black friends “niggers,” which didn’t go over well. Police were called after the fight, but only the Black students were spoken to...He was told that people call the police “pigs” and they brush it off, so he should learn to ignore “nigger.” “The difference,” my brother told them, “is you can take off your uniform, but I can’t take off my color.”

Firstly...then everyone clapped. Secondly, no, police can't take off their uniform, in these peoples' eyes. Once a pig, always a pig. Also, it's hilarious, they got called names and started a fight, then played the victims. And got a slap on the wrist, sounds like, but still managed to whine.

Recently I was talking about all of this with my current therapist, who is Black, queer, and amazing.

No. Comment.

And the times when I root for myself exactly as I am today, without comparing myself to others, are beautiful.

Gross.

Final point: Read the comments too, there's some good stuff there. Again, it's one thing I'll give Yahoo for...they often have an open comment section.