I figured it would be interesting/ enlightening to hear from users who have found happy relationships in modern society and how they met. I know how much we love to make hating posts on the stupidity of modernity, but posts from guys that have successfully found stable relationships despite the cultural zeitgeist is just as important/ informative.
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I'm not in a relationship right now, but I did date a woman for a while recently before we parted ways amicably. It's not really a success or stable, but by the average KiA2 schizo's view on women, I might as well have won the lottery, especially since she's a co-worker (gasp!). I haven't been poisoned, lost my house, or saddled with raising another man's kid.
The stable men are not posting on the internet unless posting goes along with their hobbies (like mine: computer games). Closest thing is social media.
We're on social media here. I think the quality of online discourse has dropped a ton since 2015 or so. It seems more detached from reality than before. You have all these mentally ill people building their worldview off of little more than a curated social media feed. Look at the shitty posts we get here that are just screenshots of reddit posts and such. There used to always people skeptical of these things and calling them "fake & gay." Now it seems like people are taking that crap super seriously and uncritically believing it.
And that percentage of people will equate to 70-80% of people according to recent data. Despite Internet lore, most people are in relationships and met in closed social groups online or offline. Those who aren't happy with their cards in life or have nothing to lose will of course air their grievances as they have the freedom to but the conversation around modern dating will focus on those who aren't in relationships, the promiscuous ten per cent and the other ten per cent of long term singles. Those in relationships just get on with it and don't have time to discuss in detail about it.
Where do you get the numbers that the majority of people are in relationships? All stats I have seen show majority of people are not in relationships, and birth rates have fallen hard.
The General Social Survey data that was released earlier this year. Most people have one partner in a relationship situation, decreasingly married but increasingly co-habiting.
lol I don't fucking blame you but yeah, the sad thing having a kind of interaction like that is something I'd consider a good thing because of how bad stuff is now. I'll try not to black pill this thread too much though because I get the point the OP is making. What's interesting is, the success stories I do see and hear about are often people who either met in school or universities generally. Very very rarely I see anything about people meeting online.
I won't do online dating. It's a sausage fest so the women either end up with inflated standards or are total sluts.
I just kept encountering bots no matter who I clicked, I did meet this one girl who was really nice and even though she said no because of distance it was actually memorable because she still chatted a bit regardless LOL. Actually thought I should probably date european or something if I didn't really care for British girls that much which made sense because I do get it, the distance thing is hard. There was another girl I think was a human being but she did those typical one word responses which meant she was probably swiping right on about 10 other guys minimum. Ditched her because she clearly wasn't interested in chatting properly.
Damn, they can't even keep bots off those shitty apps. That's the least they should be able to do.
The vast majority of people don't either. When you break down the numbers who met their partner online, a tenth met via dating apps and satisfaction with the apps is very low (around a tenth of singles and you may be surprised to hear, men are slightly more satisfied with the apps than women are).
This. Plus your physical presence is make or break anyway.
And yet you were not good enough for a long term relationship.
I mean, kudos for not getting eaten alive. She absolutely could have destroyed your career, if she so chose. So, well done with that game of Russian Roulette.
Care for another spin?
Are you flirting with me?