Haha it’s so true. I’ve taught my wife that if she brings a problem to me I will either (1) try to solve it or (2) stay silent and let her vent. I don’t even know HOW to commiserate or be a “supportive” person the way women want, because I “support” by looking for solutions. And I only offer the silence-while-vent option 2 to my wife, and she gets that option because she’s my wife. Any female friend, I will help if I can or redirect her to a woman to vent to because I simply don’t know how to commiserate. I’m not just trying to sound tough here, I quite literally cannot do it and just make people more upset if I try!