Being fat and soft is acceptable if you're a woman. Mystery solved. This is somebody who never could and never wanted to be competitively masculine. It takes discipline, enduring pain, enduring danger, and Anthony never wanted to subject himself to that.

As Emily, Emily can be fat and it must be called brave and beautiful. Not wanting to work out and be physical is normal for Emily "as a woman" and can be called "traditionally feminine", see how well this works out for someone who's had the body type of whole-fat pudding for 2 decades?