If you're friend you start using the "modern" term once you hear about it. If you're not up to date and use the old term someone corrects you, you apologize, and start using it. If you're not on board you don't.
It's all a bunch of little shibboleths that taken individually only vaguely point you in a direction but when taken all together are a very strong group identifier.
No it's about identifying friend and foe.
If you're friend you start using the "modern" term once you hear about it. If you're not up to date and use the old term someone corrects you, you apologize, and start using it. If you're not on board you don't.
It's all a bunch of little shibboleths that taken individually only vaguely point you in a direction but when taken all together are a very strong group identifier.